Giving the pool a try..
In the beginning of the week, we lucked out with some cooler
and cloudy weather. This gave us the opportunity to do more things outside with
Evan. We tried the pool first but he was not happy with the temperature of the
water (even with all of the distractions from his cousins). Then we walked down
to the beach to give the ocean experience a test drive. I think it was a little
intense for Evan since the wind was whipping and the water had cooled down
significantly. He was not the happiest camper when we stuck his feet in but at
least we tried.
Unfortunately my husband had to head back home in the middle
of the week for work. I was definitely bummed since he rarely gets a real
vacation and now I would be taking care of Evan without him. Luckily, we were able to go out to
dinner alone before he left, which was a nice treat. My sister was watching
Evan for the first time ‘alone’ and initially I was nervous but then actually
was impressed at how well she did. (I have the tendency to tease her about her
lack of babysitting experience)
The typical NC heat returned pretty much the day my husband
left, so hanging out outside was limited. We managed to get outside here and
there since all Evan did was reach for the door when we were stuck inside. But
Evan was definitely entertained by his 6 cousins ranging from ages 1-12 years
old. All he seemed to want to do was be around them and watch them play.
Hopefully sooner than later he will be playing with them too.
Best time of day to be out with Ev
As the week wrapped up I was becoming exhausted with Evan’s
out of sort routine. I had a ‘sad’ day the last day we were there especially
since it was the hottest day of them all. It finally hit me how challenging
life is going to be for Evan to do the simplest and most exciting things in life,
a beach vacation. That day it was so sad for me to see all of my siblings and
Evan’s cousins get to enjoy the beach so carefree. Once Evan is walking and
talking, Im sure it will be ‘easier’. I was also hesitant to even bring him
down to the beach (when the temp was right) after an uncomfortable encounter
with some strangers a few days earlier.
I was offered a lot of help, from family members, to take
care of Evan but didn’t take much of it. I was too nervous to let anyone else
bring him outside and be the judge of his temperature. I got a few hours here
and there to get down to the beach and jump in the pool. It was definitely a
different experience being on vacation with my child. Never mind a child who is
2 and still cannot walk, talk, sit or eat well. I think if I had my husband
with me for the entire week I would not have felt so overwhelmed.
Having fun with Uncle Matty's drumsticks
Hopefully next year Evan will be begging me to go to the
pool and go down to the beach. I can’t wait to hear his little voice ask me
questions and have a conversation with me. A lot of what I took from this
vacation is that I hope others do not take their life for granted and
appreciate how ‘easy’ the simplest things in life are (like going outside,
flying a kite, swimming in the ocean, going out for ice cream, or even sitting
in the sun). All of these are things we either struggled to do or did with a
lot of preparing and planning.
All in all, it was so great to have my entire family
together. Evan definitely learned a lot watching his cousins and he had so much
social interaction. He experimented with new types of crackers and snacks that
his little cousins were eating and has a new thing for straws thanks to his
cousin Aaron. Now home, I think he is wondering “Where did all the kids go?”
Soon enough they will all be together again.
The 'Clan'
This is a great post. You are an amazing mum (Australian spelling!). I have two sons and i stress over so many things with them and find it oh so hard to cope at times, like, when one has an ear infection or a slight rash. I would cry with my first son if he only slept 40 minutes for a nap and not the full 2 hours the books said he should do! I was ridiculous. Please don't for a second feel guilty for feeling overwhelmed or frustrated or worried about the future for your son. You are doing an amazing job and I wish your family only the best. xo
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